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Improve your relationship by learning how to be your own marital therapist; it’s all in this Howcast video series.
Instructions Step 1: Reflect Ask yourself if you are being too sensitive or if your partner is being thoughtless. Step 2: Define Define what the issues are. If your partner is withdrawing emotionally, define what that means to you so you can communicate that concern later. Step 3: Communicate Talk to your partner. Ask them …
Instructions Step 1: Express your frustration Express your frustration to your husband when he does not change the toilet paper roll in the bathroom when it is empty. TIP: Try not to yell. Be calm and polite. Step 2: Show him how Show him where you keep the toilet paper supply and show him how …
Instructions Step 1: Discuss your concern and ask questions Discuss your concern and ask your partner to talk about what they believe has caused their weight gain. Listen and try to understand what they are going through. TIP: Focus on their feelings and empathize with them. Avoid giving advice. Step 2: Address facts Address your …
Instructions Step 1: Talk to your partner Talk to your partner about why you’re rarely intimate anymore. Long-standing anger and resentments can bring interest in sex to a screeching halt. Be honest about your feelings, and listen nonjudgmentally to theirs. Then see if you can come up with solutions. TIP: Try having sex when you’re …
Instructions Step 1: Pay attention and listen Pay attention, listen, and try to understand – but not to excuse – your partner’s problem. Learn what you can about the source of the anger. This will also help to defuse an escalation. Step 2: Change how you respond Ask yourself how you’ve handled your partner’s anger …
Instructions Step 1: Take a time out If you feel yourself getting angry, gauge your emotion level on a scale from one to 10. Take a time-out if you or your spouse feels your emotions running too high. Step 2: Have a schedule Schedule a time to discuss the conflict, so you can be civil. …
Instructions Step 1: Know the difference between a platonic friendship and an emotional affair: The line’s been crossed if there’s continual sexual tension, secrecy, or an emotional connection you don’t share with your partner. Step 2: Beware of the “office spouse.” If you’re the one with a sexually charged friendship at work, limit personal conversations …
Instructions Step 1: Sever contact with your lover Sever all contact with your lover. If you work with your paramour, consider finding a new job. It will be difficult for your partner to trust you again if their rival is still close by. Step 2: Answer any and all questions Answer any and all questions …
Instructions Step 1: Cut them some slack If your spouse is trying to find another job, don’t expect them to start doing all the housework. Looking for a job, especially in a bad economy, can be a full-time job in itself. Step 2: But don’t be a sap, either But don’t cut them too much …
Instructions Step 1: Get it all out Tell your partner how hurt and angry you are about the affair, and discuss how and why it happened. Research suggests that the more couples talk about an affair and its repercussions, the better their chances are of getting past it. TIP: Don’t waste energy arguing about who’s …
Instructions Step 1: Decide if you need to get tough Decide if you need to get tough. It’s normal for you to feel resentment, especially if they have been out of work for a while. The trick is to determine if you’re angry at the situation, or if you are justifiably annoyed because they are …
Instructions Step 1: Be reassuring Tell your partner that you have their back. Losing a job is frightening; your reassurance that you are in this together will go a long way toward making them feel safer. TIP: Stay away from cliches like, “this will probably turn out to be a blessing in disguise!” Step 2: …
Instructions Step 1: Compliment them Find ways to compliment them. Weight-loss experts say that the first step to getting someone in the frame of mind to diet and exercise is to raise their self-esteem, not destroy it. Step 2: Eat the same foods Eat the same foods. Making your partner eat ‘diet’ food while you …
Instructions Step 1: Pull a switcheroo The next time hubby serves you food, find a reason to get him out of the room and switch plates. If he comes down with severe cramps, look around for a fresh box of rat poison. Step 2: Check personal-care products Check your personal-care products for tampering. One devious …
