Dating Survival Guide

Instructions Step 1: Know what a ladies’ man is Know what a ladies’ man is — a man who genuinely likes women as much as they like him. Don’t confuse a ladies man with a womanizer, who is more of a user than a lover. Step 2: Be able to laugh at yourself Be able …

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Instructions Step 1: Make the first move Don’t wait for a man you’re interested in to approach you — strike up a conversation with him. Women who make the first move have up to a 90 percent success rate. Step 2: Play the field Play the field, even if you’ve met someone you really like. …

Instructions Step 1: Voice likes and dislikes Voice your likes and dislikes and don’t always follow the crowd, just be prepared to explain why without being rude or brash. Step 2: Add accessories Check out a thrift, charity, or vintage clothing store to find unusual accessories, such as a jacket, belt, hat or other interesting …

Instructions Step 1: Know yourself Know who you are and what you want in a relationship. Accepting yourself as worthy to be loved isn’t always easy, and can take some practice, but it is the first step to letting love in. Step 2: Learn to trust other people Learn to trust other people and be …

Instructions Step 1: Forgive Forgive your ex for hurting you. Not only that, but forgive them compassionately by sending them loving thoughts. Hope that they learn to stop hurting the ones they love. Step 2: Let go of your anger Let go of your anger. Anger can be unhealthy for your body and mind, and …

Instructions Step 1: Make eye contact Make eye contact with your partner when you talk to them — don’t be shy. Give them all of your attention to build trust and increase the intimacy in any relationship. Step 2: Whisper sweet nothings Whisper sweet nothings into your partner’s ear. Leave a note or two around …

Instructions Step 1: Consider your sex life Consider your sex life. Do you and your partner have sex often enough for both of you? Is it mutually satisfying? Do you find sex with your partner boring? It’s an important part of a relationship. If either of you is dissatisfied, there may be trouble in the …

Instructions Step 1: Hang out at the hardware store Start hanging out at the local hardware or home improvement store. Many men, especially retirees, do their own home repair. TIP: Go to the hardware store alone. A single woman in a hardware store stands out. Step 2: Take up golfing Start going to the driving …

Instructions Step 1: Figure out budget Figure out what your budget is. Five dollars? Ten dollars? Nothing? Step 2: Check the paper Check local papers for free or low-cost events like community theater and dance productions, art openings, and festivals. TIP: In some communities, you can volunteer to work as an usher at the local …

Instructions Step 1: Make eye contact Make eye contact. Most likely, she’ll immediately look away. But if she returns the gaze within 45 seconds, she’s interested. Step 2: Know how to read her body language. Lip-licking, hair-twirling and tossing, head-tilting, and leg-crossing and uncrossing are all signs that she’s into you. If she brushes up …

Instructions Step 1: Do it nonverbally If you’re trying to put the moves on a stranger, do it nonverbally: establish eye contact, smile, and hold the smile for 3 seconds. If a guy receives this signal and he’s interested, he’ll usually make a move. If a woman receives it and returns the 3-second smile, she’s …

Instructions Step 1: Be proactive Get in touch with casual partners as soon as you determine you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone else; delays only increase the chance of someone getting hurt — or of having your love interests cross paths unexpectedly. Step 2: Make a decision Figure out how to break the news. …

Instructions Step 1: Seek stability Surround yourself with good, stable friends. Keeping up and socializing with old buddies can help you maintain the critical connection to good advice and needed perspectives. TIP: Before starting a new relationship, make sure you are over your previous one. Step 2: Discuss sexual problems Discuss and work on sexual …

Instructions Step 1: Write it down Write your suspicions about the relationship on paper or in a journal. Evaluate these thoughts as objectively as possible to prevent emotional confusion. Realistically challenge the reasons for the jealousy. Step 2: Reflect on patterns Reflect on patterns of your own personal behavior and your level of self-esteem rather …

Instructions Step 1: Lay your problems on the table Don’t expect your relationship to improve if you aren’t telling your partner what bothers you. Honestly express your needs and insecurities in a non-threatening, non-accusatory way so your partner doesn’t get defensive. TIP: Use “I” language instead of “you” language. Say “I feel upset” instead of …

Instructions Step 1: Wear red Wear red, which makes men feel more amorous. In one study, they were also more likely to ask a woman wearing red on a date and more inclined to spend money on her. Step 2: Show some skin Show some skin — 40 percent, to be exact Researchers who observed …

Instructions Step 1: Return to flirting Return to flirting with your significant other. A little attention can prove more than any quote or song lyric. Step 2: Go high tech Post a custom playlist of MP3s online and gift it to your love or have someone help create a sultry video and email it to …

Instructions Step 1: Be confident Keep your head up and confidently approach her. TIP: Wear a friendly smile. Step 2: Start a conversation Start up a conversation with her. Ask her open-ended questions — not Yes/No or Either/Or — to get her to talk about herself. Step 3: Listen Listen to her and pay attention …

Instructions Step 1: Practice Practice what you are going to say to him. Practice saying it in front of a mirror so you can watch yourself and your facial expressions. Step 2: Dress Fix your hair, apply your makeup, and dress in a flattering outfit that accentuates your assets and plays down your liabilities. Step …

Instructions Step 1: Think TThink about what you are going to say to her and practice a little. But once you see her, keep your tone conversational so that you don’t sound rehearsed. Step 2: Be confident Be confident and smile when you see her. Remember: you’re delivering good news! Make sure you are well …

Instructions Step 1: Display confidence Display confidence. Being confident is a quality girls find attractive. Step 2: Talk to her Talk with her. Listen attentively when she is speaking and find similar interests you both share to focus on. TIP: Ask her open-ended questions to keep her talking. Step 3: Be a friend to her …

Instructions Step 1: Do your homework Learn what modern dating is like, especially if you’ve been out of the game for a while, to give the best and most accurate advice. TIP: It’s OK to draw from your own experience, too. Step 2: Use humor Use humor to break the ice and lighten the mood …

Instructions Step 1: Get advice first Speak with anyone you know who has been in a similar situation before you get seriously involved. Educate yourself and decide honestly whether you are ready to date someone with children, especially if they are teenagers. Step 2: Examine your true intentions Examine your needs and what you want …

Instructions Step 1: Determine that you’re ready Figure out if you’re ready to date again. If you can picture yourself with somebody other than your ex, you might be ready to start. TIP: Look at pictures of and talk to friends about your ex to see what you feel. If you still hurt, you may …

Instructions : While this video is awesome, it didn’t go to medical school. Always consult your doctor for actual medical advice. Step 1: Work it out Get thee to a gym! There’s no better workout motivator than a date — aside from the physical and emotional health benefits, regular exercise can also enhance arousal in …

Instructions Step 1: Be self-sufficient Be self-sufficient both financially and emotionally. You don’t need to depend on anyone else for your well-being and happiness. Step 2: Relish your freedom Make a list of all the advantages of being single, like complete freedom to come and go as you please, take career risks, and spend your …

Instructions Step 1: Seek stormy skies Move to the Pacific Northwest — vampires are drawn to the area thanks to its heavy cloud cover. Bonus: you can use the constant rainfall to hide the many tears you’ll shed over the difficulties of romance between humans and immortals. Step 2: Give ’em a whiff Stand in …

Instructions Step 1: Lead, don’t follow Be a strong leader and most women will respond. Make decisions about everything, including what to do and where to go. Step 2: Be confident Be confident and bold when approaching women. Calmly introduce yourself to a woman you’d normally be intimidated by. Practice this often to become more …

Instructions Step 1: Like yourself Like yourself. Be confident without being arrogant. Step 2: Be yourself Be yourself – if you get a guy to like a version of you that isn’t genuine, he’s going to figure it out sooner rather than later. TIP: Don’t change the way you look to impress a guy. Any …

Instructions Step 1: Go au naturel Dress for your date in natural fiber clothes that are manufactured and sold locally, which means less energy spent on production and shipping. Don’t wear leather or furs – the resulting wastewater from tanning hides contains considerable toxins. TIP: If you wash before your date, take a shower – …

Instructions Step 1: Don’t believe stereotypes Don’t believe stereotypes. Contrary to the popular legend of so-called cougars pouncing on young bucks, research shows that it is usually the man who initiates a relationship with an older woman. Step 2: Be self-sufficient When you meet a younger man you like, let him know you’re self-sufficient. That’s …

Instructions Step 1: Offer no reason Turn them down — and this is key — without offering a reason. You can’t tell the truth — that you’d rather have dinner with a convict — and they’ll just try to argue whatever excuse you offer. TIP: If you already committed to a date and then changed …

Instructions Step 1: Have a great job Have a steady job that pays well. Anthropologically speaking, the main reason young women are drawn to older men is because they want to mate with someone who can provide for them and any children that may come along. Step 2: Be in shape Be in good physical …

Instructions Step 1: Practice good grooming Look your best. Don’t dress sloppily, be conscious of the latest trends, and get a fashionable haircut. Step 2: Be hygienic Maintain good hygiene. Shower daily, wear deodorant, and finish with a splash of cologne. Brush and floss regularly and rinse with mouthwash. TIP: Quit smoking. Now. Step 3: …

Instructions Step 1: Get involved in campus activities Get involved in campus activities that interest you. You’ll have fun and meet like-minded people. Step 2: Multi-task in class Multi-task in class. If there’s someone you’re interested in, make sure to look nice, try to sit near them, and come up with an excuse to talk …

Instructions Step 1: Check community paper Check your local community newspaper for classified ads. Many singles understand the lack of suburban singles venues and take out classified ads. Step 2: Look around Be on the lookout at your local library, corner store, and grocery store. You can find singles everywhere if you keep your eyes …

Instructions Step 1: Find a balance Find a balance. Never mentioning your exes can seem like you’re hiding something, but talking about them constantly indicates you’re still hung up on them. Step 2: Be honest about contact Be honest about any current contact you have with your exes. Lying about talking to an ex may …

Instructions Step 1: Find a win-win activity Check out the latest events guide for your town and ask your partner to note whatever sounds appealing; you do the same. With any luck, there will be enough duplication for several win-win outings. Step 2: Get the dopamine flowing Focus on activities neither of you has tried …

Instructions Step 1: Think about it Think about it. Is a potential relationship worth losing an established friendship? Keep in mind that if things don’t go well, you could lose both. TIP: Wait to start dating until the amount of time they’ve been broken up exceeds the amount of time they were together. Step 2: …

Instructions Step 1: Be polite Be polite and either leave the door open for another date or make it clear that there wasn’t a spark. Don’t lead someone on by saying you’ll call when you know you won’t. Step 2: Evaluate what happened Evaluate the date the next day with a clear head. Go over …

Instructions Step 1: Practice good hygiene Practice good hygiene. Make showering and brushing your teeth a priority. It’s not just girls — no one likes a stinky guy. Step 2: Dress well Dress like you care. No matter what look you’re cultivating, girls appreciate it when you put some thought into your clothes. Step 3: …

Instructions Step 1: Be assertive Be assertive. Guys respond to directness, so don’t hint that you’d like a call every now and then. Even a simple, “It’d be great if you called me this afternoon to go over our plans for the evening” will work. Step 2: Give positive reinforcement Give him positive reinforcement when …

Instructions Step 1: Get a partner Choose someone your prospective cuddle partner. Hang out a while with them. Enjoy each other’s company. TIP: Make sure you aren’t oozing sweat, body odor, or bad breath. If you are, take care of it. Step 2: Get comfortable Take off restrictive clothing. Even better, cuddle when you’re wearing …

Instructions Step 1: Smile Show them how happy you are to see them with an inviting smile. Step 2: Take a joke Learn to take a joke in stride. Having a good sense of humor is an attractive quality. Step 3: Share interests Focus on similar interests. Having something in common can help a relationship …

Instructions Step 1: Make a plan Talk about the issue before it becomes an issue. Have a frank discussion about what to do when one of you needs the room to yourself to entertain a guest. Step 2: Use technology If you can give your roommate fair warning, or you’re out and they’re nowhere to …

Instructions Step 1: Overcome your own prejudice Overcome your own prejudice. If you feel that being short is something to be ashamed of, women will pick up on that – and low self-esteem is a bigger turnoff than anything else. TIP: Don’t bother wearing lifts. At some point, they have to come off, and the …

Instructions Step 1: Get contact information Ask the person setting up the date for the blind date’s contact information. Call or e-mail the person before you meet. Step 2: Meet in a public place Meet in a public place to play it safe and establish a casual, stress-free tone. Step 3: Keep the location casual …

Instructions Step 1: Attend social functions sponsored by your house of worship. At the conclusion of services, stay around for any events afterward. Step 2: Attend potluck dinners – they’re gaining popularity as a community social event. You can also sponsor your own, and begin developing them as a regular event. Try to attend two …

Instructions Step 1: Make a good impression Make a good impression the morning after. Prepare breakfast, or go out for a cup of coffee. Use humor and a little well-placed flattery to defuse a potentially awkward situation. Step 2: Gauge their feelings Pay special attention to their behavior and body language. Standoffish behavior means it’s …

Instructions Step 1: Stare past her Disappoint the girl who wants to be the center of attention by not listening to her and staring past her, wearing sunglasses. Step 2: Act like you don’t need her Get the girl’s attention by acting like you don’t need it. Step 3: Get busy Keep to yourself and …

Instructions Step 1: Dress up Dress up for your date. Choose clothes that are flattering yet appropriate for the date’s venue. Step 2: Order what you normally would Order how you normally would at a restaurant. For example, don’t order a salad if you would normally order a steak – men love women who eat! …

Instructions Step 1: Groom yourself Properly groom yourself for the date. Take a shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and dress in clean, wrinkle-free clothes that are appropriate for the date. TIP: Wear clothes that accentuate your style. You don’t have to change who you are to look nice. Step 2: Be chivalrous Be …

Instructions Step 1: Do not respond Do not respond to phone messages, e-mails, or text messages. TIP: Do not lead someone on. Be specific about your feelings. Step 2: Avoid eye contact Avoid eye contact if you see him in person. Step 3: Do not engage in conversation Do not engage in a conversation. If …

Instructions Step 1: Beware of the stare Beware of a guy who stares at you for too long. It’s a sign of aggression and usually means you’re his next conquest. Step 2: Assess his style Assess a guy’s style for clues. Super-grooming signals he’s probably more into himself than you. Step 3: Pay attention to …

Instructions Step 1: Get a makeover Prepare to meet new people by treating yourself to a makeover. Buy some new clothes, update your hairstyle, whiten your teeth, pump some iron. It’s easier to socialize when you feel good about yourself. TIP: Take up jogging. You’ll get in shape and run into new people all the …

Instructions Step 1: Dress to impress Dress to attract the type of person you’re aiming for: classy, sophisticated, and elegant. You don’t need an entire wardrobe of expensive clothes, but a few designer duds won’t hurt. Wear understated colors and natural fabrics like wool and silk. TIP: Wealthy people notice the details. Keep up your …

Instructions Step 1: Use sheets that have never been shared with a previous lover. Consider erasing all traces of an ex by investing in a new mattress. TIP: Increase sexual activity by using sheets in flesh-tone colors. Step 2: Position the bed so that you and your partner have a view of the door, but …

Instructions Step 1: Be alert Be alert at all times, especially when in dense cover. The best way to survive a cougar attack is to avoid one in the first place. Step 2: Stay in groups Stay in groups when in cougar territory. Lone individuals are much more at risk. Step 3: Remain calm Remain …

Instructions Step 1: Have a policy Have a dating policy. Meeting for a weekday lunch will provide a limited time frame and a safe, public location. Step 2: Be graceful Be graceful and keep up your end of the conversation, even if sparks aren’t flying. TIP: You might actually make a friend of your bad …

Instructions Step 1: Hang out where the girls are: farmer’s markets, bookshops, yoga classes, dance lessons, or concerts featuring romantic crooners or solo female artists. Step 2: When you spot a woman you want to impress, do something noble. Women find do-gooders more exciting than daredevils, according to one study. Step 3: Know the best …

Instructions Step 1: Dress up a little. Put some thought and care into your outfit. Step 2: Make a fancy dinner. Lay out a nice tablecloth, your finest dinnerware, and a couple of wine glasses. Pick classy meals that are cheap to make, such as eggplant parmesan. Serve a bottle of wine. TIP: Decorate the …

Instructions Step 1: Scan the room Scan the room for your top three choices. Base your decision not just on desirability, but on attainability as well. Exclude anyone already talking to a guy–trying to muscle in now could lead to a bar fight, in which case no one will get laid. TIP: Go for the …

Instructions Step 1: Smell like a grapefruit Smell like a grapefruit. A study at Chicago’s Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation found that women wearing the scent were perceived to be an average of six years younger than their actual age. Step 2: Get an iPod Get an iPod and load it up with …