How to Improve Your Sex Life

Instructions Step 1: Create anticipation Create anticipation by telling your lover what you hope will happen in bed later. To keep things fresh, vary how you convey this information. Step 2: Read your partner Read your partner’s mood. If you sense they’d like to be wooed, bring on the candlelight dinner. If they’re stressed out, …

Instructions Step 1: Understand the risks Understand the risks of sending sexually explicit text messages or photos via cellphone, aka “sexting.” Once you hit “send,” your message is out there for good, with no guarantee it will remain between you and the recipient. So weigh the pros and cons carefully before you engage in this …

Instructions Step 1: Masturbate Masturbate regularly. If you’re a man, it will help you delay ejaculation during intercourse; if you’re a woman, it will teach you the kind of stimulation you need to climax more easily. Step 2: Go with your gut Don’t ask for feedback, pointers, or affirmation during sex — they’re instant mood …

Instructions Step 1: Ignore it Ignore it. With any luck, your partner was too into the action to notice. And even if they did, chances are they’d just as soon pretend it didn’t happen too. Either way, no good will come of bringing it up if they’re willing to overlook it. Step 2: Deny it …

Instructions Step 1: Get her in the mood Do some chores around the house before initiating sex: 72 percent of women polled cited it as the number one way to turn them on, paving the way for you to please her in bed. If you don’t live together, do a surprise favor for her Step …

Instructions Step 1: Keep away from money Try not to fight about money, and don’t let an argument about something else evolve into a battle over finances. In a survey, couples reported that money spats rarely led to make-up sex. Step 2: Woo her Guys, if you want make-up sex, you’re probably going to have …

Instructions : Never perform a full body massage on a pregnant woman. Step 1: Set the scene Set the scene for her full body sensual massage by finding just the right spot and putting sexy music on the sound system. Step 2: Warm things up Light some candles and warm a bottle of massage oil …

Instructions Step 1: Dress for sex-cess Wear clothes that you can easily take off — and put back on — if you plan to have sex outdoors. Or wear easy-access clothing that lets you get busy without completely removing much at all. Step 2: Wear protection Use protection — and that includes a good sunscreen …

Instructions Step 1: Allergy-proof your bedroom Allergy-proof your bedroom: Millions of people are allergic to spring pollen, and 83 percent of them say their condition has adversely affected their sex life. Keep the bedroom windows shut, dry all bedding indoors, and shower before bedtime so you don’t bring pollen into the boudoir. Step 2: Buy …

Instructions Step 1: Pick clothing Choose clothing for the striptease. Picks clothes you can remove with little or no fuss. Wear a costume like a fireman or police uniform, or a tuxedo. Step 2: Select a spot Select the right spot to perform the striptease. Make sure you have plenty of room to move around, …

Instructions Step 1: Squeeze in quickies Squeeze in a quickie whenever and wherever the mood strikes. The spontaneity, time constraint, and — in some cases — fear of getting caught, can help make sex hotter. TIP: Save the candlelight dinners for date night, not sex night. Downing cocktails and digesting a big meal don’t foster …

Instructions : Don’t persist with your blabber if a woman sends clear signals that she’s not interested. Nothing’s a bigger turnoff than desperation. Step 1: Make her feel attractive Make her feel physically attractive. When it comes to having sex with someone new, women often let self-doubt about how they look naked get in the …

Instructions Step 1: Have a signature scent Select a scent to wear only when you have sex. You’ll soon be able to get your lover excited just by dabbing on your signature cologne or perfume. Step 2: Get everyone out Rid the bedroom of any photos that feature anyone but the two of you. Pictures …

Instructions : Pregnant women should not go in hot tubs. Step 1: Stay at home Confine hot tub sex to your own hot tub, or that of someone you can count on to maintain theirs properly. Studies have found a lot of germs in public ones. Step 2: Use lubrication Use a silicone lubricant; water …

Instructions Step 1: Find partners Find cybersex partners. Check out adult dating sites devoted to cybersex, or request private conversations with people you click with in non-sexual chat rooms or on social networking sites. Step 2: Learn the lingo Know the basic cybersex acronyms, like TDTM — talk dirty to me; GYPO — get your …

Instructions Step 1: Remove the shirt Remove the shirt for easier access to the bra. Make sure you have her consent before proceeding. Step 2: Reach your hand around Reach around her body from the front so that your hand is positioned at the clasp in the back of the bra. TIP: If there’s no …

Instructions : If you’re caught having sex in public, you could be charged with disorderly conduct, lewd and lascivious behavior, or other crimes. Step 1: Avoid sensitive locations Choose a location where you will not encounter children. Places populated by families are more likely to be patrolled, particularly if the police have received complaints about …

Instructions Step 1: Drink pomegranate juice Drink 8 ounces of pomegranate juice every day. In one study, men with erectile dysfunction reported improvement after drinking it for four weeks. Step 2: Eat garlic Eat more garlic. It contains allicin, a compound that increases blood flow, resulting in firmer erections. Aim to eat four cloves of …

Instructions Step 1: Watch gangster movies Skip the romantic comedies and watch a gangster movie. In one experiment, guys who watched The Godfather: Part II experienced a 30 percent rise in testosterone levels. Step 2: Hit the steam room Hit the steam room; it can increase blood flow to sexual organs. Step 3: Nibble on …

Instructions Step 1: Be direct Set some ground rules with your parents regarding your love life. Clearly and calmly outline your thoughts on late nights out, sleepovers, and times you can be alone with a date — you can appreciate having a roof over your head while still maintaining your independence. Step 2: Maintain your …

Instructions Step 1: Suss out slow and sexy If your man whispers sweet nothings and covers you with soft kisses, don’t dismiss him as hokey. It means he’s ready to make a connection. Step 2: Decipher long foreplay Long luxurious foreplay leading to athletic sack sessions? You’ve got an extrovert who loves to socialize and …

Instructions Step 1: Believe in yourself Believe in your own sex appeal. Tell yourself daily that you deserve the best. Step 2: Take care of yourself Take care of yourself by eating healthy, getting plenty of rest, and exercising. Sex appeal emanates from a healthy physical appearance. Step 3: Wear red Wear red. Studies show …

Instructions Step 1: Understand it Understand the problem. Some erectile dysfunction is biological and can be treated by a doctor. Performance anxiety is a psychological pattern that can stem from intimacy issues and low self-esteem. If left unchecked it can worsen self-esteem problems and lead to feelings of rejection in your partner. Step 2: Check …

Instructions Step 1: Observe behavior outside the bedroom Observe your partner’s behavior outside of the bedroom. Deciding to work longer hours, drinking more, and weight gain are signs they’re not happy with your erotic routine. Pressing their pelvis against yours when hugging and regular public displays of affection mean you’re doing a-ok. Step 2: Notice …

Instructions Step 1: Pick a time and place Pick a neutral time and place. Go somewhere private other than the bedroom and never discuss your partner’s sexual shortcomings right before, during, or after sex. Step 2: Manage eye contact Manage eye contact. Men perceive sustained eye contact as confrontational, while women view it as a …

Instructions Step 1: Listen for confidence Listen for confidence, not bravado when she talks about sex. A quick, self-assured quip about sex means she’s sincere while boisterous bragging could indicate she’s compensating for something. Step 2: Check out her clothes Check out her clothes. Look for subtle sexy flares instead of overtly sexual outfits. Women …

Instructions Step 1: Be specific Replace vague murmurings like, “that feels so good” with explicit expressions of what is going on, what’s going to happen, or what you hope will happen. Step 2: Use crude language Use raunchy language to describe body parts and sexual acts, as in, “I love the way you’re bleeping my …

Instructions Step 1: Hop on top Get on top. Research shows it’s the position most likely to get women to the finish line. TIP: Ask your partner to gently tug your hair as you begin to climax; it releases endorphins, intensifying orgasm. Step 2: Fantasize Have a go-to sexual fantasy that you can conjure up …

Instructions Step 1: Get tested Ask your doctor to test you for low thyroid function and iron deficiency; two disorders that can reduce your sex drive if left untreated. Step 2: Combat depression Talk to your doctor if you think you may be depressed. Ask about switching antidepressants or lowering your dosage if you are …

Instructions Step 1: Build anticipation Start foreplay several hours before sex: Call your lover with an explicit message about what you want to do with them later, or sext them. Step 2: Cook a meal Cook a meal together. Couples who prepare food as a prelude to sex report more satisfying sex lives. Step 3: …

Instructions Step 1: Don’t lean on booze Don’t use alcohol or drugs as a crutch to loosen you up. They may lower your inhibitions, but research shows it can also lead to risky sexual behavior you could regret. Step 2: Use your imagination Use sexual fantasies to transport you to a place where you aren’t …

Instructions Step 1: Don’t get your arm caught Avoid getting your arm caught in the first place. While basking in the afterglow, lie on your back and encourage your partner to rest their head on your chest. This way you can snuggle all your want without cutting off the circulation to your arm. Step 2: …

Instructions Step 1: Tell her you love her Tell her you love her. Researchers found this to be the most effective way to get a woman into bed. We’ll leave the ethics to you. Step 2: Say you’re committed to her Can’t bring yourself to say those three little words? Imply that you’re committed to …

Instructions Step 1: Choose sides Choose sides of the bed that you will always sleep on. That way, there’ll be no fighting it out before bedtime. Step 2: Have extra blankets Have extra blankets on or near the bed in case you or your bed buddy hogs the comforter in the middle of the night. …

Instructions Step 1: Get some exercise Get moving. Exercise activates the sympathetic nervous system, encouraging blood flow to the genital region. One study found that women were more sexually responsive following 20 minutes of vigorous exercise. TIP: Men who are physically active may reduce their chance of erectile dysfunction by up to 30 percent. Step …

Instructions Step 1: Continue kissing and stroking Continue kissing and stroking her face or hair with one hand while using your free hand to feel for the clasp to determine whether it is in the front or back. Step 2: Determine clasp location Place your hand on her breast, over the shirt, and feel for …

Instructions Step 1: Work out a few times a week. Research shows that regular exercise boosts sexual self-esteem – plus, it’ll help firm up any problem areas. Step 2: Take advantage of aromatherapy. A grapefruit scent can fool people into thinking you’re several years younger. If you want to look trimmer, a spicy floral scent …

Instructions Step 1: The over arm Put your arm around her waist and use your hand like you know what sensuality is. But since you don’t, just do that with your bottom hand. Step 2: The under arm Don’t make any play for action with your under arm. It’s not meant for nothing but falling …

Instructions Step 1: Check for security cameras Make sure you know the location of all office security cameras so your little romp isn’t caught on tape. Surveillance equipment is typically placed near entry and exit points and in rooms than contain merchandise or other valuables. But employers have been known to put cameras in employees’ …

Instructions Step 1: Jot down some notes If you’re not used to talking dirty, jot down some notes so you’ll never be at a loss for words. Step 2: Calm yourself Spend a few minutes taking deep breaths before dialing so you’ll sound relaxed and confident. TIP: Consider starting things off by sending a “sext” …

Instructions Step 1: Avoid sex Commit to not having intercourse until you get to the end of this therapeutic process. Even if lack of desire is your biggest problem, you may be surprised at how much you’ll crave sex once you’re forbidden to have it. TIP: Both parties should give up pornography as well during …

Instructions Step 1: Keep faces obscured When you’re making a sex tape, take care to keep your face obscured. That way, should the tape ever fall into the wrong hands, you’re less likely to be identified. Step 2: Keep it locked away Keep your sex tape in a locked box. You don’t want small children …

Instructions Step 1: Pick a good time Wait for a good time to bring up the subject—like when your lover is feeling good about their body. TIP: You can pave the way by complimenting their physical charms in the weeks leading up to The Talk. Step 2: Address their concerns Respectfully listen to any reservations …

Instructions Step 1: Don’t take things personally Don’t take it personally when your man is not in the mood. Women think they just need to flash some flesh to get a guy salivating like one of Pavlov’s dogs, but that’s a myth. Step 2: Don’t hide your body Don’t hide your body: Strip in front …

Instructions Step 1: Moan gently Start off by moaning gently a few times. Keep your eyes half-open and your face neutral. Step 2: Offer encouragement As you moan, offer a few words of encouragement, like a breathless, ‘yes, yes’ or ‘that feels so good.’ Step 3: Kick it up Gradually get louder. Moan more aggressively. …

Instructions Step 1: Clean the car Be sure that the seats and floors of the vehicle are relatively clean. The mood can be dampened by rotting food and other debris being jostled during the act. TIP: While some people burn candles to heighten the romance, it is not recommended. They’re a fire hazard–and stopping to …

Instructions Step 1: Pay attention Pay attention to how she addresses you. There is a chance that she may have forgotten your name, too, and if so, relish your good fortune because two wrongs do make a right. Step 2: Get her out of the room No such luck? Try to get her out of …

Instructions Step 1: Choose a partner Pick the appropriate person to be your partner—you don’t want to surrender your precious gift to the first “playa” who smiles your way. TIP: If you’re embarrassed by your inexperience, choose another first-timer, so you’re on equal footing. If you want to make up for lost time, choose an …

Instructions Step 1: Get out of bed The minute you wake up, get out of bed—especially if she’s still in it. Step 2: Get dressed Get fully dressed, even if you usually breakfast in your boxers. You don’t want to give her any ideas about spending a lazy day in your bed. Step 3: Don’t …

Instructions Step 1: For girls If you are a female… get laid. If you are a male, proceed to step 2. Step 2: For gays If you are a homosexual… get laid. If you are a heterosexual male, proceed to step 3. Step 3: For guys Locate a woman. Don’t just stand there – manipulate …